Wanting Illusion: How To Find Direction In Life Without Losing Yourself To Identity, Fantasy, Or Fear
This book is for you if you’re an intelligent overthinker who has spent years healing, helping others, or even leading others—yet still have no idea what you truly want.
In Wanting Illusion, I share my own story of looking at overthinking, anxiety, addictions, and even self-improvement as decoys—working full-time to protect us from our real desires.
This is not self-help.
No advice.
No motivation.
No ‘finding clarity’ by asking deep questions.
The book exposes a single mechanism: how humans—even after “insight” and “understanding”—avoid aliveness by replacing contact with identity, clarity-seeking, and substitute desire.
It sits near the “no self” truth, but frames it differently: not as no self, but as no world. The tone is humorous, self-deprecating, and precise. No spiritual language. No jargon.
At the center of the book is what I call the Procedural Game: life moving without the self’s management tricks.
The self is not removed by insight.
It becomes obsolete through engagement with reality.
This is why the book doesn’t teach nonduality. It creates the conditions under which nonduality becomes unavoidable.
After that, it’s hard not to notice how often “there is no self” is used to avoid stepping into places where the self would actually disappear.
Not in theory.
In contact.
(Where things can go wrong)
In short:
The reader doesn’t “find their desire.”
They lose their hiding places.
Discover for yourself:
- Why being inside the right game (procedural desire) changes your life more than self-actualization or self-mastery.
- And why intelligent minds won’t shut up—and what happens when you stop treating desire like a problem.
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